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Monday, April 25, 2022

Unwanted Child

I realized at a young age that I was not a wanted child. My parents had a rushed marriage and were divorced by the time I was 3. I rarely saw my father after that as he was always elsewhere with his job in the army and I have clear memories of every rare visit. At 14 I thought I would get my chance to know my father when my mother decided to use the I can't handle her card (after my running away twice and her kicking me out once) and sent me to live with him. At first I really thought that things were going to be better only to realize a few months into it that my father wasn't going to be anything but my father there would not be the opportunity for me at that time and it may never be. My father rarely spoke to me about anything but day to day stuff no matter how much I tried to get him to tell me stories or become more involved in my hope's. That's when I started to realize that he had started a new family and I was the one to be left behind. Now don't get me wrong over the years we would connect but while he was raising his new family I was raising mine I felt I was an embarrassment to mr family man army guy and so I stayed away. Then about a decade ago I had reached my limit of letting him treat me like I was invisible and let him have it. I held nothing back and told him exactly how I felt about everything. I can't say that things became different over night because it took many late night talks about nothing for us to begin to rebuild our relationship. 

So for the ass who thinks that they need to keep sending me messages about how unwanted I was you are not telling me anything new. However your clearly mistaken in believing that I was unwanted in the end. Otherwise we would never have had the talks and visits we did have in the last decade that I will cherish forever.

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