Why?????

I am soooooo confused. I keep hearing from friends and my children that friendships between the genders is a healthy thing and that as long as you're not hiding it in any way your partner should be able to handle it. 

But an innocent text conversation sent a 50 year old man into forbidding his partner from having any conversations with strange men recently. Strange men to him that is. Now the man has been unfaithful in the relationship more than once his partner has never been unfaithful and really doesn't want or need to be. At her age she just wants to be happy and enjoy her golden years. Not deal with childish jealously from someone she has chosen till death do us part with.

She's crushed and has been swallowed up in depression again. Hating herself and wishing just to be plucked from this life. She knows she'll pull herself back out of this black hole again but she realizes it's getting harder to do so with each drop into that hole.

She also knows that although she is in it till death do us part that may no longer be an option. She has made so many excuses for the actions that caused her pain to herself and her friends. She's beginning to see for herself what those around her see and can't just keep making excuses because she loves him.

She can no longer be accused of doing those things that she wouldn't do because she values her relationship by the one person who has clearly shown that they don't value the relationship in the same way. 

You just need to stop with the bullshit just because you don't respect her and the relationship doesn't mean that she doesn't. There will come a point when she gives up on you completely and walks away. Not only will she have lost respect for the relationship at that point but also lost respect for you.

If you're so worried about what she might be doing think about what you aren't doing that you should be doing instead.